🥺 "I Never Thought a Skirt Could Make Me Cry Like That..."

Written by Mervan D. - Published on JUN 21, 2025

I grew up in a place where boys were supposed to be tough. Quiet. Flat-chested. Unemotional.

You get it.

The idea of wearing something feminine?
That wasn’t “cute” where I’m from. That was a risk.

My dad once said, “A man in a skirt is just asking to be made fun of.”
So for years, I just… shoved that part of me down.

But it never went away.

I bought clothes I never wore.
I’d stand in the mirror at 2am in a crop top, then rip it off when I heard footsteps.
I kept telling myself:

“You’re not brave enough.”
“You don’t look good enough.”
“This would be easier if you were hotter, thinner, or more feminine.”

But here’s what I didn’t understand…

The problem wasn’t me.
The problem was that everything I’d ever bought was designed for the end of the journey — not the start of it.

It was a comment under a random “femboy fashion” thread.
Someone wrote:

“Most of this stuff is made for people who already feel safe. But what about people like us? The ones who are scared, but still want to try?”

That hit me so hard, I had to sit down.

I vented to my best friend about how I was spiraling again.

“I want to feel cute,” I said. “But I feel so stupid even trying. Like I don’t belong.”

And she just sent me this link and said:

“Read the page. Trust me.”

The site was called Femzai.

At first, I thought it’d just be another aesthetic overload — pink, hearts, models who don’t look like me.

But it was different.
Way different.

Not just looking good.
Not just passing.
Not just “slaying.”

But feeling emotionally safe.

They called it “Safe-Expression Design.”
Clothes made not just to look fem — but to help you feel okay expressing yourself, even if you were still scared.

That meant:

Layer-friendly pieces I could wear under a hoodie until I was ready

Loose, cozy fits that didn’t make me panic about how my body looked

Simple starter items that still felt “me” without screaming LOOK AT ME

It wasn’t flashy.

Just a skirt, three tops. Something I could wear in my room, without pressure.

But the second I put it on…

I felt something snap open inside me.

It was quiet. Private. No lights, no selfies.
Just me, sitting cross-legged on my bed in a matching set that finally felt… right.

Not because I was sad.
But because I felt like me.

For the first time, I didn’t feel like I was faking it.
I didn’t feel like I had to be “enough” to wear what I wanted.

I felt safe.
I felt soft.
I felt seen.

It Wasn’t Magic. It Was Design — Built for People Like Me.

Here’s what I learned:
The reason I kept failing wasn’t that I was weak.

It’s that I was missing the one thing no one told me mattered:

Psychological safety.

Every other brand made it seem like I had to be confident first.
But Femzai flipped that.

They helped me feel safe first — so confidence could grow on its own.

🤯 Why Other Clothes Never Worked for Me

Every time I tried other sites, I’d get this mix of:

• “Too femme” stuff that freaked me out to wear in public

• Clothes that didn’t fit my body (and made me spiral)

• Pieces that were designed for cis girls and just didn’t feel like me

I wasn’t just struggling with style —
I was struggling with fear, self-doubt, dysphoria, and identity panic.

Other brands didn’t get that.
Femzai did.

The Unique Mechanism That Helped Me Finally Move Forward

What changed my life wasn’t a hoodie or a skirt.

It was this realization:

“I don’t have to become someone else. I just need clothes that help me feel safe enough to be me.”

Femzai builds their designs like that on purpose.

Not “show-stoppers.”
Not cosplay.
Not hyper-sexualized.
Just cute, cozy, anxiety-safe expression pieces that hold space for people like us.

And Now… Something Weird Is Happening

I’ve started leaving the house in soft femwear.
I wear their stuff on video calls.
I post selfies and actually feel okay.

I don’t panic in dressing rooms anymore.
I don’t feel like I’m “pretending” when I look in the mirror.

And most importantly:
I’ve stopped apologizing for wanting to feel soft, sweet, and safe.

❤️‍🔥 If You’re Reading This and You Feel Stuck Too…

Let me tell you:
You are not broken.
You are not behind.
And you are definitely not alone.

You’ve just been trying to bloom in soil that wasn’t made for you.

Femzai is different.
It’s made for our growth. Our fears. Our joy.

Start With One Piece. That’s All It Takes.

If you’re scared, that’s okay.
Order something small.
Try it in your room.
Don’t tell anyone.

Just feel it.

Let your body recognize what it feels like to be supported — not judged.

Let your softness grow.

🔗 Tap here to try your first piece from Femzai
💬 If you’re not ready to wear it outside yet… that’s okay. You will be.

🧸 Because your softness is not a weakness — it’s your superpower.